Tag: teflon mind

I’ve been clinging to whatever moment of positivity I can find over the past few days. My brain is just like velcro because every single negative thing that occurs in the run of a day just sticks. I wish it was the other way around, that the positive aspects of my day were the things my brain would focus on.

I read somewhere a while back that said we need 5 positive interactions to make up for one negative interaction. Yikes! It sucks that negativity has such a big influence on us. There would be a lot of happier people in the world if our brains were more like teflon and not velcro with negative things.

I think we’re all like this though. Evolution has hardwired our brains to keep track of negative experiences as a way to protect us. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure that this unique characteristic was very useful back in the day but now its more of a source of anxiety and sadness. I could have had 25 positive thingū0s happen today and one single negative experience. My brain is going to fixate on that one single negative thing and to be quite honest, its been rather exhausting.

I’ve been feeling a dark, heavy cloud of sadness hovering during the past couple of days and that, for me, is terrifying because my periods of depression can be severe. So I’ve been thinking about teflon and velcro a lot and taking in the positives wherever I can.

There was one thing in particular that stood out a few days ago when I went for my Ketamine infusion. While I was standing at the registration desk there was a nurse doing some paperwork across the room. I’ve grown familiar with most of the staff because I’m there regularly but I’ve never had any dealings with that particular nurse. Out of the blue she calls me by name and says she loves my new hair color. I was taken aback because she had observed that change. Which meant she has noticed me before. So maybe I’m not as invisible as I think I am …?

It was one comment by one person that was a positive moment in my day that I’ve attached to my velcro brain. That one comment has been the single positive item on my list today. Sometimes you have to cling to whatever you possibly can to make it through. If you see something you like about someone don’t hold back from telling them because you have no idea how desperate that other person is to have a positive moment that day. A kind word can save a life without you ever knowing! 🖤